would you like to know what people say behind your back? or live in sweet oblivion…
for years I have gone through life clueless to the fact that anyone might be talking about me… I have gone into situations believing no one has an opinion about me…
recently it was brought to my attention, and not in a malicious way but a kind way, that someone might have something to say about me… and it might not be favourable…
and it shocked me…
not that I don’t talk about people… oh I do… but only when it’s fair and just and they brought it on themselves…
I have lived with a mindset that I have never done anything to anyone that would warrant them talking behind my back about my bad personality traits…
but, alas, it has happened… and most likely has happened way more regularly than I would ever have imagined…
I know what you are thinking… what would this innocent farmer’s wife who merely cooks, cleans, manages the occasional hockey team, runs, watches Netflix and tends to her garden ever be able to do to another human being to warrant them destroying her behind her back?
her children and husband might have another story to tell… but so what? do we want their opinion? no…
I was telling them about the slander directed my way and their responses were…
‘you are very friendly to people you want to be friendly to… and then really distant and mean to everyone else’
‘you are really judgemental… of us and everyone else’
‘we are afraid of you most of the time… that is why we laugh at your jokes and eat what you cook for us’
‘when you aren’t laughing at one of your own jokes, you look really mad’
but again, these are the options of a farmer and his 15 and 12 year old boys… not to be taken too seriously…
you know what you can do once you realize people talk negatively behind your back?
either stop caring or change your behaviour…
third option is to let everyone know you don’t want anyone to tell you the truth about what is being said about you… this is the option I am going with…
I don’t like hugging and I don’t like hearing bad stuff about myself…
there I said it… only rainbows and lollypops please…
and I’ll do the same for you… I will offer you a cup of coffee and some granola and lets chat about everything other than the garbage other people are saying about us… or about our kids… or our husbands….
which doesn’t leave a whole lot of options so perhaps don’t come for coffee and granola and just let me eat it alone and watch Netflix…
(I really can’t believe anyone would have any negative vibes coming from me)
almond hemp hearts granola
Ingredients:
- 3 cups old-fashioned rolled oats
- 1 cup chopped almonds
- 1/4 cup ground flaxseed
- 1/4 cup hemp hearts
- 1 tsp ground cinnamon
- 1 tsp sea salt
- 1/2 cup creamy almond butter
- 1/3 cup pure maple syrup
- 1/4 cup coconut oil, melted
- 1 tsp vanilla extract
Directions:
- set oven to 325 degrees
- in a large bowl, combine oats, almonds, flaxseed, hemp hearts, cinnamon and salt
- combine the dry ingredients and add the other ingredients and mix well with a spatula
- spread granola mixture on a parchment paper lined baking sheet
- bake for 30 minutes, until it is golden brown
- let cool completely on baking sheet
- will keep in an airtight glass jar for up to one month (or 8 hours in my house)
i feed a farmer 
“Option 3” is always my choice too. Knowing you can never really change someone else’s opinion of you.
I had a “good-intentioned” friend who told me someone’s opinion of me. When she didn’t get a reaction from me .,,the 3rd time she repeated the same story I said “enough!”. Unfortunately, we are no longer friends mostly because she wanted me to be so upset at the person who said something about me and I really wasn’t upset about that…I felt more betrayed by my longtime friend repeating this same blah-blah-blah about me…nothing I could change.
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